Multiple Rehabs, Last Chance by Rebecca D. Dodge

My son had been to many (10) previous rehabs before. He had overdosed multiple times and been close to death. He had been homeless, on the street, lived out of his car...basically hit that "rock-bottom " we all hear about. Caron Renaissance was our last hope. We had heard from many doctors he was close to death...a lost cause. I refused to believe that. Caron Renaissance was tough on him...and me. They held him more accountable than previous rehab centers and kept tabs on him and didn't let things get past them. They kept him constantly thinking, constantly in groups, in therapy. They got his body moving each morning with exercises...helping him to get healthy again. They forced him to accept responsibility, even when he tried not to. They forced me, as a parent, to look at my issues...deep-seated issues. Painful issues. Difficult. Hard. Worth it though. During family week we all had those "hard conversations". Many times....with tears. But it worked. And after family week, we found it brought about a renewing in ALL of us. The therapists called weekly. This had NEVER happened with ANY OTHER REHAB. And I've seen quite a few. The therapists forced issues I wished were kept quiet. But it was best to be said. Caron Renaissance is an excellent facility. Go if you can. It will probably save your child's life.

Comments of a Caron Renaissance Father

During my son's residence at Caron Renaissance I learned how the addict's interaction with his/her family is critical for the recovering addict and for the entire family. I learned that typical parental support for many young adults can become an obstacle to recovery for addicted young people. With the assistance of Caron Renaissance staff I explored ways in which the addict's family needs to face its own recovery and how to recognize risks to the addict triggered by well-meaning but mistaken thoughts and actions of the family. As my son's recovery progresses I've found the support of Caron Renaissance family group meetings and events in my area to be very helpful in dealing with the challenges that face families of recovering addicts.

Life Changed for the Better - by Carol

My son has been at Caron Renaissance for almost a year. I place all my trust in the staff there and my Higher Power. I am not sure what the future will hold for my son, but I do know that he is being given the best tools to use to become the best version of himself. He has to choose to use those tools. That is no longer my concern. Don't get me wrong, I still pray for him everyday. Caron Renaissance has taught me to take care of myself and find my own voice. I took part not only in the Family Weekend, but did two weeks of Family Restructuring. Little did I know that the Family Restructuring was not about my son, but was about me! It was challenging and freeing both at the same time. I continue to work with a family therapist and attend several support groups each week. I work the program! I never thought that through the trials of my son's addiction, I would come to love and respect myself. My life will be forever changed for the better, if I continue to work hard each day and stay in touch with my Higher Power. I thank everyone at Caron Renaissance for their caring, wisdom, and perseverance.

DC Family Support Reminder - Making Changes

Hi Everyone, This Sunday the Caron Renaissance Family Support Group reconvenes to talk about this moment in time - a snapshot of now. Of great importance is how we ourselves are doing; what we are changing, and how we are striving to build, one step at a time, the quality of life we expect and wish to sustain on a daily basis going forward. One major benefit of attending a regular support group is that the focus is on ourselves. Addiction is a habit which locks families into repetitive patterns of behavior. These patterns fail to produce positive results. When our addict sees us break out of these patterns, there is a wake up call. "Nothing changes until something changes.” We hear this often in early recovery. Once we take that first step, whether it is forced upon us or we suddenly seize the moment, there is hope that a domino effect will follow. We also hear, "If we don’t change, they won’t change.” None of this is easy. Change can mean learning to live with a heavy heart. But often, our addicts take notice. With persistence, unproductive behaviors can recede, one bad habit at a time. We welcome Renaissance families to our meeting for discussions about what is happening right now in our lives. See you Sunday - 

Reworking My Parental Outlook - by SM

My son had been to other treatment centers before entering Renaissance. Because of his ADHD and resistance to coaching I had told myself that I was always going to have to solve his practical living issues. Renaissance showed my son that he was capable of solving problems on his own. At the same time Renaissance coached me on stepping back and letting him take care of his own issues. This was a life changer for both of us!

Blind Trust - by Eileen S

Risky behaviors, no do overs, crisis, frenzy, needing to act, a heaviness, aching, energized by fear & love - as I look back,  these are some of the words that stand out in my journal entries from three years ago. I can still feel the emotion in my throat and my heart. My last sentence on the very first entry is this, “As I turned to the last page of this journal, it is blank. It suddenly hit me that I don’t know what will be written on it and that scares me.”

Blind Trust - this is what I suggest parents have once their loved one is at Renaissance. The staff cares deeply and will do everything in their power to help. They are brilliant and adept at taking things apart and putting them back together again... in a different way. A way  that you never knew existed. And, then you get to choose if you want to continue the work. Do you want to be a better you? Do you want healthier family dynamics? Do you want to take care of yourself?

The last page of my journal is still blank but I don’t feel as scared. Of course, there will continue to be the “what ifs” but we now have tools, open communication, excitement about the future, and a healthy family. We have a solid support system of incredible Renaissance parents and the Renaissance staff, when needed. So, I will continue to focus more on our quality family time, being mindful about my actions and reactions, and I’ll keep my Caron Renaissance toolbox at my side. I’ve decided not to worry so much about that last page.

Why Caron Renaissance? - by Hanonymous

I hope and think our daughter would have found recovery on her own when the time was right. Now she thanks us for sending her to Caron Renaissance. In her words, ‘Renaissance gave me many more good years while I’m still young’.  By time we got there, we'd all had huge spikes and troughs. She’d been through various treatment programs. While she struggled with abstinence and sobriety, we felt she needed more time in treatment and much better continuity once she left. We had to wait until a crisis occurred, and then seize the opportunity at Renaissance. Changing habits and ways of life is hard work, and this program provided a launch pad for opening all of us up to everything that recovery means as a way of life. It gave us as parents, a chance to make gradual and meaningful changes. The advantage of Renaissance was the highly individualized treatment; the depth of care for families; the specialized groups in addition to primary group; the uncompromising approach of the therapists; a vocational program that factors in a patient’s pathology for job choices; the college-bound program that helps patients advocate for their goals and needs; and the fact that patients are expected to be off-campus for some portion of each day. Renaissance is a place with high expectations and unwavering convictions. The bar is never low. And that, in the end, is dignity.  

DC Family Support Reminder - Slow is Good

Hi Everyone, This Sunday the Caron Renaissance Family Support Group will meet. Welcome! Recovery is a slow process which contradicts the linear milestones in the lives of our children as they grow up. ‘Graduations' in our school system begin in kindergarten and carry on through adulthood. It is tempting - and culturally appropriate - to believe from the start of residential treatment that if we follow the roadmap, we will emerge at some kind of finish line; with the assumption that whatever 'failure to launch' brought the family into Renaissance, will be addressed and reversed. But one of the first realizations that emerges when recovery becomes paramount, is that this is not exactly a linear process. We may see others, further along, who know things, but there is no a magic bullet. Recovery is a process with a lot of moving parts. Our designated patient may discover a path to resolving a portion of their challenges, only to find themselves summoned to another monumental challenge; and another, and another. Recovery takes time for the patient and the family. It takes connecting with others, so that we don’t struggle alone. And it takes a genuine commitment over time to learn wisdom from the experience of others. Practicing and sustaining what we learn along the way is what recovery is all about. Continuing our bi-monthly meetings, and finding 12-step meetings that work for us, are key to maintaining our well being. This is the heart of our Caron Renaissance Family Support Group. See you Sunday -